May I share a quick personal work-life story of reflection? Being named a Top 10 On-line Influencer on stress by Sharecare.com, a Dr. Oz site, was one of the most exciting moments of 2013. My voice in the work stress arena had reached a new pinnacle and it lead to all sorts of opportunities, including participating in Arianna Huffington’s Third Metric Conference. A Huffington Post portal, which is catalyzing the conversation around well-being and success.
Exalting well-being at work and in business is my passion. The phrase demands further introspection of the rich nature of vocation: embodying our personal values and using our individual strengths in the journey toward the bigger picture, our own contribution to society, business, our planet. It is for my individual journey, a perfect blending of what I call the work-life merge.
Reaching the Masses
With further reach, the door suddenly swung wide open for my work to be further disseminated, sometimes without my knowing.
Recently, I had a self-indulgent moment of personal upset for the third time in as many months after it was brought to my attention, material I had penned, had been somewhat repurposed, reorganized and paraphrased for other people’s tomes. Or had it? That’s always the question that might linger if I let it, but I won’t. It’s difficult to prove and there are more powerful lessons at play.
We live in an age of digital exuberance where information travels at the speed of light. And I am a believer that we are all also tapped into a big soup of consciousness. Plagiarism is plagiarism, but as we grow to share our solutions to better manage what I call our UPED U existence, information spreads out like peanut butter and jelly on an everything bagel. Yes, there are ideas and innovations that you can claim as your own, but ultimately it’s gonna be one big messy sandwich with many tastes, colors and opinions.
But the competition is not just for eyeballs and ears, it’s for hearts,minds and souls. In our deep search toward meaningful work, true vocation and being the signal above the noise, ultimately we are the only ones who can cast the shadows blocking our true beauty from emerging even in heated competition.
It’s perfectly understandable, to be upset if someone has lifted your juicy stuff. I’ve had my moments of disheartening feelings take me briefly into a spiral. But lingering negative emotions like envy, jealousy and anger steal your joy, your energy and curtail your zest and grit to go deeper into your work.
Being mindful to acknowledge the thoughts and feelings is a first step. It’s yet another way to practice mindful meditation at work and in business. Still, just observing those thoughts without taking them to heart is not always an easy journey, so here are three points to keep in mind.
1. The Inner Business Guru has it’s own unique voice: The lens through which we write, teach or consult is informed by our inner business guru, which when fully tapped, is simply a unique voice that no one can duplicate. It’s the purest truest nature of how we deliver wisdom and knowledge, from our own tapestry of experiences and narrative. Competitive forces while present, can’t compete with the drive of a unique message.
2. Relinquishing negative mind chatter allows the brain to focus on the positive: Dwelling relegates you to victimhood. Without being 100% sure that your idea or material was lifted, negative thoughts are like kryptonite for the soul and creativity. It also keeps one stuck and operating from a place of paranoia and fear. Furthermore, remaining in that type of fixed mindset, doesn’t allow for the inner business guru to emerge with new ideas for fear of being stomped on.
3. The power of presence will attract the right audience: The way your present your material in a live format or recording - can in an instant – attract the right audience. A mentor of mine, Rick Jarow PhD, career sociologist and Vassar scholar passed down this teaching to me, from his teacher: “There’s a place that needs you, and a place where you need to be. See them coming together in exquisite harmony.”
That power of presence is something I was recently discussing with a good friend of mine, Performance Coach Heidi Hanna. A big hat-tip to her for reminding me of the radically direct truth of presence. The presence of that inner business guru will always trump the competition.
Presence seeps into the air, the water, the hearts and minds of those who cross your path with little to no effort. You still have to do the work, but once the decision is made to not dwell in the small setbacks of negative vibes, the doing of creating and innovating toward the next step is nearly effortless.
Do you think the inner business guru can ultimately conquer negative thoughts about competition in the end? Very curious to read your thoughts.